3 Things To Talk About With Your Partner Before Baby #2 Arrives

As the weeks dwindle into the single digits for us before baby Segura makes their grand appearance into the world, the realization that our family is growing is starting to finally sink in. Adding a new little person in the mix is a big deal, and not only is it an adjustment for Jeff & I as parents but for Mila too. To get on the same page so that we're both prepared for all the outcomes we decided to talk it over dinner, just us two. It might be the last time in a long while that we get to go out, dressed up & not sleep deprived so we took full advantage of it.

I had mentally prepared a list of things I really wanted to talk about with Jeff and was mindful if there were things he also wanted to talk about that way I wasn't completely hogging our date night. We had the privilege of driving in the 2019 Buick Envision which was a real treat. My perception of Buick was always that they were geared more towards the older crowd but every time I get in one I see first hand how far they've come and evolved as a car brand. 

1. Responsibilities

As someone who suffers from anxiety, I'm not a huge fan of the unknown, so I wanted to get a feel for what Jeff thought each of our responsibilities were going to be. I know that I'm having another C-Section, and he remembered how tough it was for me to be independent the first couple of weeks. After I gave birth to Mila I was fortunate to have my mom there, this time with a new baby, a fresh cut, and an energetic toddler I was a little scared but then I remembered Jeff wasn't there the first couple of weeks because of work, this time he's a full-time dad part time blogger so I won't be alone this time either. We decided that my biggest responsibility was to get breastfeeding down, and Jeff's biggest task was to make sure Mila didn't feel left out. 

2. Our First Born

Since we don't know how Mila is going to handle us adding another one into the mix we want to make sure we're paying as much attention to her as possible. We're doing our best to make sure she understands that there's a baby in mommy's tummy that will come out soon and she seems excited but I'm not sure how much a 3-year-old can grasp the concept. We don't want her to feel left out and are planning on getting her as involved as possible in caring for our new addition, but to be completely honest this is new territory for us. 

3. Patience with each other 

Since this is new territory for the both of is I just wanted to make sure we both remembered to be kind, and patient to each other. We both have short tempers, and Jeff gets frustrated if things don't go as planned but since we know each other and we know each other's limits it was important for me to verbally express it. 

I remember how hard it was adjusting to a new baby the first time around, especially when we didn't communicate our feelings, so this time around we aren't so blind going into it and we more or less know what to expect when it comes to sleep deprivation but we won't really know until the baby is actually here. We don't know their personality, or how Mila's going to handle it but having a chance to talk about all of these things on was so important for us.

What are things you think we should talk about before baby Segura arrives? What did you talk about with your partner when you were about to add another baby into the mix?

I want to give a huge thank you to Buick for giving us the wheels to get around and encouraging us to get out of the house and get all fancy! Check out the review Jeff did of the 2019 Buick Envision below: